#metoo: Never Accept!
I was a victim of as a child abuse, domestic abuse, and attacked by strangers. The #metoo movement is important to me… and I want to share what we need to do to stop accepting abuse, and stop enabling abuse. Know your rights and your worth. Stand up for yourself and against those who disrespect you. If you tell someone who does not help you, go to someone else who will.
I tried to take my abuser to court but the laws are behind… How can a grown man molest a 6-year-old and get away with it? Adults are lazy, the laws are lagging, and the money needs to be there for laws to change, sadly. But! Maybe there is hope. Maybe if we stand up now and stand up to the next abusive attack, victims can stop feeling weak and know their worth.
Books and Support:
Ellen Bass is a Chancellor of the Academy of American Poets. Her most recent book, Like a Beggar (Copper Canyon Press, 2014), was a finalist for The Paterson Poetry Prize, The Publishers Triangle Award, The Milt Kessler Poetry Award, The Lambda Literary Award, and the Northern California Book Award. Previous books include The Human Line (Copper Canyon Press, 2007) and Mules of Love (BOA Editions, 2002) which won The Lambda Literary Award. She co-edited (with Florence Howe) the first major anthology of women’s poetry, No More Masks! (Doubleday, 1973).
Her non-fiction books include Free Your Mind: The Book for Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual Youth (HarperCollins, 1996), I Never Told Anyone: Writings by Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse (HarperCollins, 1983), and The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse(Harper Collins, 1988, 2008), which has sold over a million copies and has been translated into twelve languages.
Ellen founded poetry workshops at Salinas Valley State Prison and the Santa Cruz, CA jails. She currently teaches in the low residency MFA writing program at Pacific University.
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